Friday, September 24, 2010
Monday, September 20, 2010
Battle of clutter
Husband is a compulsively tidying person and I'm an OCD slob.
Result? I like my clutter to stay RIGHT where it is, thank you very much and he feels the need for it to at least be contained within certain areas of the house.
Now, when I say slob, I don't mean the health-risk kind. I don't leave food around, or food covered dishes. Just paper, yarn, books, bags, etc
Every last blasted time I go looking for my things only to find he's dragged them off to some other part of the house, the only thing I can think is "Stop touching my stuff! I don't touch yours!"
I admit, it really isn't a very fair thought considering he could pile the house with books and papers and the only time it would bother me is if I stepped on them or they fell on me. He gets nervous and stressed when the house is messy.
I need to learn to contain my clutter.
Result? I like my clutter to stay RIGHT where it is, thank you very much and he feels the need for it to at least be contained within certain areas of the house.
Now, when I say slob, I don't mean the health-risk kind. I don't leave food around, or food covered dishes. Just paper, yarn, books, bags, etc
Every last blasted time I go looking for my things only to find he's dragged them off to some other part of the house, the only thing I can think is "Stop touching my stuff! I don't touch yours!"
I admit, it really isn't a very fair thought considering he could pile the house with books and papers and the only time it would bother me is if I stepped on them or they fell on me. He gets nervous and stressed when the house is messy.
I need to learn to contain my clutter.
Thursday, September 16, 2010
For those of us who are...
20% of people in relationships are in love with someone who is not their partner
Have you been there? Are you still there?
Why, why, why?
Maybe I'm just too pratical: I married a man I knew loved me more than I could ever love him and who would take care of me the way I like to be taken care of.
The cost of constantly asking your children: do you want it, or do you need it? Do I need OC? No. Do I want him? Oh hell, yeah. Will it ever go away? I don't know. I don't know if I want it to, because maybe it feels like that will be the last desperate gasp of my youth flying out the window.
Practical? No. Human? Yes.
Have you been there? Are you still there?
Why, why, why?
Maybe I'm just too pratical: I married a man I knew loved me more than I could ever love him and who would take care of me the way I like to be taken care of.
The cost of constantly asking your children: do you want it, or do you need it? Do I need OC? No. Do I want him? Oh hell, yeah. Will it ever go away? I don't know. I don't know if I want it to, because maybe it feels like that will be the last desperate gasp of my youth flying out the window.
Practical? No. Human? Yes.
Sunday, September 12, 2010
Hallelujah
Sometimes all it takes is a simple conversation to put your mind deeply at ease.
Dear Husband,
THANK YOU! for not being as into anal as you were evidentally pretending to be (thinking that I was turned on by it) Far from being turned on by it, I was starting to wonder if it would be our deal breaker.
Dear Husband,
THANK YOU! for not being as into anal as you were evidentally pretending to be (thinking that I was turned on by it) Far from being turned on by it, I was starting to wonder if it would be our deal breaker.
Friday, July 30, 2010
Sunday, July 4, 2010
There is something to say about the difference between a long term relationship to an Old person versus and Older person.
With an Old person, the decay has already begun. You can see and observe quite tangibly that they're on the decline and make some educated assumptions about the amount and quality of time you're going to have left with them. Generally speaking, you're going to have a pretty good idea of what you're getting into with the relationship and you're willing to take it on.
With an Older person, they're still relatively spry, relatively flexible, relatively healthy looking. Often these people fall under the rough category of "Middle aged" (which I place pretty much between 35 and 55, though I'm aware that it's no longer a very solid description). While this might betray some physical changes for the worse in women (wrinkles, sags, etc), in men it is often the prime of life: they may not be quite so fast or strong as they were at 20, but they're at peak attractiveness for a lot of other reasons. Usually, while they might be exhibiting some health problems, it isn't yet clear if there are going to be a lot of problems later on.
And there's the rub: much like being with a younger person (30-) and Older person is a gigantic question mark, but they are also older. The 25 to your 25 has, without medical conditions and lifestyle taken into account, about the same expected life span as you. The 45 to your 25 is a gigantic question mark with a little -20 written next to it.
In case I haven't mentioned it earlier (forgive me laziness, but I don't feel like going to check) my husband has twenty years on me. He has health problems that are becoming increasingly apparent the longer we stay together and I worry both for him and (honestly, selfishly more) for me.
I don't think it's wrong to be worried about yourself (in this case, myself) in regards to a relationship, but I still feel slightly guilty. I guess that's my Id speaking.
With an Old person, the decay has already begun. You can see and observe quite tangibly that they're on the decline and make some educated assumptions about the amount and quality of time you're going to have left with them. Generally speaking, you're going to have a pretty good idea of what you're getting into with the relationship and you're willing to take it on.
With an Older person, they're still relatively spry, relatively flexible, relatively healthy looking. Often these people fall under the rough category of "Middle aged" (which I place pretty much between 35 and 55, though I'm aware that it's no longer a very solid description). While this might betray some physical changes for the worse in women (wrinkles, sags, etc), in men it is often the prime of life: they may not be quite so fast or strong as they were at 20, but they're at peak attractiveness for a lot of other reasons. Usually, while they might be exhibiting some health problems, it isn't yet clear if there are going to be a lot of problems later on.
And there's the rub: much like being with a younger person (30-) and Older person is a gigantic question mark, but they are also older. The 25 to your 25 has, without medical conditions and lifestyle taken into account, about the same expected life span as you. The 45 to your 25 is a gigantic question mark with a little -20 written next to it.
In case I haven't mentioned it earlier (forgive me laziness, but I don't feel like going to check) my husband has twenty years on me. He has health problems that are becoming increasingly apparent the longer we stay together and I worry both for him and (honestly, selfishly more) for me.
I don't think it's wrong to be worried about yourself (in this case, myself) in regards to a relationship, but I still feel slightly guilty. I guess that's my Id speaking.
Saturday, June 26, 2010
Great Day.
You may recall that I said I'm bisexual and yet wonder at the lack of any mention in this regard.
Well, please allow me to share with you what turned out to be one of the better days in my life due to a handful of links of beautiful Asian women.
Hot Chick Clock App
Hot Chicks (and a couple that may be guys, I think?) in cosplay!
And, just for giggles: Escaping Internet Rehab
Well, please allow me to share with you what turned out to be one of the better days in my life due to a handful of links of beautiful Asian women.
Hot Chick Clock App
Hot Chicks (and a couple that may be guys, I think?) in cosplay!
And, just for giggles: Escaping Internet Rehab
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